Now, I’m not saying “everything is easier in community”. In fact, many things are **much** harder. But we need each other in hard times.
Have you ever stopped and really looked at those two words? Each other. Each person who feels “other” than me, and each group that feels different than us—we need each of them. We need each other.
The things we have in common
So, what’s the connection between the killing of Tyre Nichols in Memphis and the little girl in Lebanon who came to our team with ideas of suicide this week?
Or our colleague Sahar who was kidnapped by the Islamic Republic of Iran this week and the Syrian refugee community who reached out asking for help after another charity cut funding?
In all cases, the “we” was not big enough.
The cops in Memphis wanted to get home to their people. They failed to see the harm they were about to do (to themselves) by excluding Tyre from the circle of “we”.
The clerics in Iran want security for their people. They fail to see the harm they are doing (to themselves) by excluding everyday citizens from the circle of “we”.
And so it goes…
We must expand our “we”
To combat hopelessness, we must expand our “we”.
We killed Tyre Nichols—black, white, blue… we.
We kidnapped Sahar in Iran. American, Iranian, Russian… we.
And we cut funding to Syrian refugees. Leaders, donors, staff… we.
Blaming “them” is easy. But it’s not just who they are, it’s who we are. And only by finally seeing ourselves in and on all “sides” of conflict, can we come to see our enemies for who they really are, as well: brothers, sisters, neighbors, and future friends.
Community = insurance
Giving up on hope is tempting. The key is to connect yourself to a community of people who are generally oriented toward hope, generative activities, and building a more beautiful world. You don’t gotta be positive all the time. The community just needs to move on vision, creation, service, and growth.
A lot of people give up when love gets hard. In fact, some will even band together around destructive energy and call it “community”. That’s not the community we’re talking about. Rejectionist communities all fail.
So, here are a few principles the HUMANITE community is constantly using so we don’t give up on love: